THE DANGER OF DISAGREEMENTS
The Danger of Disagreements
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)
Disagreements are a natural part of life. Whether among family, friends, coworkers, or even strangers, differences of opinion will arise.
The true test is not whether you will face disagreements, but how you will handle them when they come.
Proverbs 15:1 offers clear wisdom: a gentle response can diffuse anger, but harsh words will set it on fire. In the heat of disagreement, our words can either calm the situation or worsen it. A soft answer is not about giving up on the truth; it is about choosing humility, respect, and self-control as you react
Often, a disagreement starts small, like a spark. If you handle it correctly, it may fade quickly. But if fueled by sharp words and anger, it can grow into a fire that causes lasting harm. How many relationships have suffered, not because of the disagreement itself, but because of the way it was handled?
Choosing a soft answer means listening carefully, speaking thoughtfully, and valuing the relationship above the need to “win.” The Truth is that unless Peace prevails, no one wins. It takes more strength to stay calm and respectful than it does to lash out.
A gentle response invites peace, opens the door to reflect the heart that Jesus desires us to have.
Practical ways to develop soft answers include:
• Pausing before responding, allowing emotions to settle.
• Lowering your tone, even if the words are firm.
• Listening fully, seeking to understand the other person rather than simply to be heard.
• Letting go of the need to be right, while standing firm on what is right.
Try focusing on preserving respect for the relationship itself.
• Ask God’s for His wisdom and self-control in moments of tension.
Disagreements do not have to lead to division. They can be opportunities for growth, and deeper connection if approached in the right way.
We live in a world filled with anger and division, choosing answer softly sets a powerful example. It brings peace where there could be strife, and healing where there could be brokenness.
Today, if disagreements arise, as they surely will, remember the Proverbs 15:1. Choose to respond not with harshness, but with kindness. Not with pride, but with patience. And may your words always long for peace.
